Choosing a pediatrician for your child is a significant decision, one that often starts even before your little one arrives. Drea Nanini, co-owner of CrossFit South Arlington and mother, discovered firsthand just how challenging this process could be. Thinking it would be straightforward, Drea was surprised to find herself interviewing nine pediatricians before finding the right fit. Her journey highlights the importance of finding a healthcare provider who not only possesses medical expertise but also aligns with your family’s values and parenting philosophy. Drea shares her insights to guide you in selecting a “Dr. Right” for your Gen-P child, emphasizing that this relationship is a crucial part of your family’s health and well-being.
The Crucial Pediatrician Relationship: More Than Just Check-Ups
Becoming a parent for the first time is an overwhelming yet incredibly rewarding experience. Drea realized early on that her daughter’s pediatrician would be more than just a medical professional; they would become a vital support system. Especially with a newborn, doctor’s visits are frequent, making it essential to have a pediatrician who understands and supports your choices. For Drea, this meant finding someone who respected her decisions regarding a whole foods diet for her daughter, extended breastfeeding, natural products, a modified vaccination schedule, and a gentle, attachment-style parenting approach. She understood that this doctor would be a long-term partner in her daughter’s health journey, making the selection process deeply personal and significant.
Navigating the Pediatrician Interview Process: Drea’s Candid Approach
Starting the search for a pediatrician can feel daunting. Drea’s advice? Begin by tapping into your network of like-minded individuals. Recommendations from friends or acquaintances who share similar values can be invaluable. Initially, Drea made the mistake of asking other doctors for recommendations, which proved less fruitful. Instead, she found success by directly contacting pediatrician offices and requesting introductory interviews – a common practice for expectant parents.
When scheduling interviews, Drea advises paying attention to the office staff. Their demeanor and helpfulness can often reflect the overall atmosphere of the practice. If you feel uncomfortable during the initial call, trust your instincts. This decision is about your family’s well-being, and comfort is paramount.
During the interviews themselves, Drea stresses the importance of open and honest communication. Come prepared with questions (Drea even provides a list – more on that later!) and be candid about your parenting philosophies and healthcare preferences. It’s crucial to remember that you are entering into a partnership. Drea encountered doctors with what she describes as “God-like complexes,” who dismissed her concerns and opinions. She recounts instances where doctors were condescending and presumptive, reinforcing the need to stand your ground and advocate for your family’s needs. If a doctor is dismissive or makes you feel unheard, it’s a clear sign they may not be the right fit.
Ongoing Pediatrician Evaluations: Active Parental Involvement
Finding a pediatrician is just the first step; maintaining a strong and supportive relationship requires ongoing effort. Even with a pediatrician you trust, active parental involvement in your child’s healthcare is crucial. Doctors are busy professionals seeing numerous patients daily, and they may not always remember every detail of your child’s case or your family’s preferences.
Drea emphasizes the importance of being an informed and proactive parent. She advocates for doing your own research before appointments, but cautions against unreliable sources. Instead, rely on trusted resources – whether they are friends, family, reputable books, or credible online sources. Ultimately, make healthcare decisions based on what you believe is best for your child. Don’t hesitate to voice your concerns or disagree with recommendations if something doesn’t feel right.
Drea also recommends taking notes between visits to keep track of questions, developmental milestones, or any concerns that arise. This preparation ensures that appointments are productive and that all your questions are addressed. While it’s important to be assertive in your beliefs, Drea also advises maintaining an open mind. Pediatricians, as medical professionals, will often have standard recommendations, such as vaccinations. Be prepared to discuss these topics, understand their perspective, and make informed decisions that align with your values. If you feel strongly about something, stand your ground. If necessary, seek a second opinion or consider switching pediatricians if you consistently feel unsupported. Finally, Drea suggests observing your newborn’s reaction to the pediatrician – babies often have an intuitive sense of character, and their comfort level can be a valuable indicator.
A Pediatrician as Part of Your Extended Family: Building Trust and Support
The relationship with your pediatrician should feel like a partnership, almost like welcoming them into your extended family. They are not just caring for your child; they are becoming a part of your family’s health journey. Raising children comes with anxieties and uncertainties, and having a pediatrician you trust and who supports your choices is invaluable. This support empowers you as a parent and ensures that you have a reliable medical professional to guide you every step of the way. Drea’s final piece of advice is powerful: “Don’t take any crap. You know what is best for your family, and that trumps all!” Finding the right “Drea Doctor”—the pediatrician who truly aligns with your family—is about advocating for your child’s health and well-being and building a relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.
Download Drea’s “28 Questions To Ask Your Pediatrician”
To further assist you in your search for the perfect pediatrician, Drea has generously provided the list of 28 questions she used during her own extensive interviews. This comprehensive list is available as a printable PDF document, ready to accompany you to your pediatrician interviews. These questions are designed to be conversation starters, helping you gauge how well each doctor’s approach fits with your vision of family healthcare. Feel free to personalize the list, adding questions that are particularly important to your family and omitting any that are not relevant.
Download Drea’s Pediatrician Interview Questions PDF
About Drea Nanini
Andrea (Drea) Nanini is a resident of Arlington, VA, and co-owns CrossFit South Arlington. She is the devoted mother to Nehla, who, since birth, has thrived on a 100% Paleo diet.
Drea reflects on motherhood: “Pregnancy and childbirth are transformative experiences. For me, becoming a mother prompted a deep re-evaluation of my lifestyle and my perspective on the world. I made a conscious decision to raise my daughter following Paleo principles and to breastfeed her for as long as possible. My family embraces a holistic approach to health and well-being in our daily lives. In truth, my daughter has inspired our family to become healthier, which is an incredible gift.
I am now empowered to equip my daughter with everything she needs for a long and healthy life. I am committed to this path, as it continues to be rewarding and fulfilling. My daughter has ignited a passion within me for a range of topics I never anticipated exploring. While I am undoubtedly biased, she is an extraordinary little person. I am excited to share my experiences and this journey with you!“
Connect with Drea directly at andrea.nanini(at)gmail(dot)com or through her Facebook page.
